As parents we always want to see our children succeed and be happy. As a result, we tend to push them to do their best and protect them from hurt and failure. When we intervene, we can inadvertently impact the lessons that nature and logic provide.
Natural Vs Logical
Natural and logical consequences are great teachers, they foster our growth and build our resiliency.
Keep the Consequence Relative
Consequences are most effective when they are closely associated to the behaviour. We don’t want to take away their favorite tv show because they threw water over their sibling as there is no easy association between the behavior and the consequence. Associated consequences give them a chance to learn what happens when they behave inappropriately. Additionally, it separates the child from what they did, and does not shame or punish the child.
Further, when done in a calm manner it provides children with the opportunity to learn to be responsible and accountable for their own behaviour.
Rules and Expectations
For the most effective impact, parents need to follow some simple guidelines –
Author - Leslie Sugden